Why do some people have so much difficulty using correct pronouns and accepting non-binary identities?
When meeting someone new, you might ask them if they have a nickname or a different name they would prefer - an ordinary question to most people.
But for some, it can be an entirely different story when it comes to transgender, non-binary or genderqueer folk. There are (unfortunately) many people in the world who do not respect the pronouns of trans or non-binary people while using nicknames themselves.
This double standard isn’t just illogical and a clear sign of bigotry (or ignorance at best), it is also indicative of the inherently transphobic and heteronormative world that we live in. From a young age, we are all socialised into gender roles, which is not inclusive non-binary identities.
Genetically, there is no reason why boys and girls play with different toys or do different things. Gender roles are built on socialisation and social conditioning. Not only are they damaging to both sexes, but they are also hugely damaging to those who do not fit into the gender binary.
The reinforcement of gender roles teaches young children that the line between the sexes cannot be blurred in any way. Gender socialisation is not only sexist, out of date and unhelpful, but it is also transphobic and harmful to those questioning their gender identity.
Written by Kate Hopwood
Artwork by Zara Masood
